Just Wait

9 thoughts to help you make the best of the in-between times.

“There’s nothing more we can do for you at this time,” Dr. Mackle said. I had been sitting in the upright chair just inside the entrance of a narrow consulting room. I didn’t look at him – hadn’t been expecting those words. I didn’t know how to respond since it never occurred to me that my hepatologist could run out of possible solutions; that I could run out of options. I said nothing. He rested his hand on my shoulder.

The unexpected words hung in the air then followed him out of the room. I was left to wait.

Sometimes there is nothing left to do but wait. The arsenal of medications already spilling out of my cupboards help some but can’t make the problems go away.

So, on the good days I relish life – as much as I can and on the not-so-good days, I just wait. At least, I’ve begun to learn how.

 

Wait

\Weyt\ Verb: to look forward expectantly; a state or attitude of watchfulness and expectancy; to remain in a state of repose until something expected happens.

The way I see it, waiting doesn’t mean not doing anything. It calls for strenuous mental and emotional spunk and is probably one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do.

Unfortunately, waiting is not our default setting (it feels too good to be up and getting things done). But you know what I realized? Waiting doesn’t have to mean time-wasting. There is a lot to be learned during the waiting period, if we adopt the right attitude.

Waiting unfolds patience and humility and courage and tolerance and faith and . . . a whole lot of other stuff unique to your situation.

So switch off the helplessness of ‘victim’ and switch on the authority of learner. Swap out the ‘poor-me‘ whines for the ‘what am I supposed to learn from this‘ questioning.

Switch off impatience and switch on contentment (not to be confused with hopelessness). It’s okay to wait.

Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!       Psalms 27:14

Switch off anxiety and switch on anticipation. Instead of the query ‘when?’ make it the qualifier of your goal – the beginning of your plan ‘when I . . . .’ And visualize yourself as you will be.

If you don’t like where you are, just picture yourself where you want to be.        Auggie in Wonder.

Every day won’t be a “good” day, especially with a chronic illness.

Here are 9 thoughts I think will help you on your way.

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Coping with the Tough Stuff Too

5 Suggestions to help you navigate the difficult times.

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.

 Arnold Schwarzenegger

You know what? Even the luckiest of us has had to deal with some serious bumps in the road, and if you haven’t yet, you will. That’s just the way life works. I didn’t make the rules – just saying.

Now it may not be your typical ‘take-your-black-suit-out-of-the-mothballs’ kind of stuff, not life-threatening or anything, but a major pothole none-the-less.

Take migraines for instance. Some people still think, migraine – no big deal; stop being a wuss, suck it up, swallow two Advil and get back to business as usual.

In case you, my reader, are a bit backward when it comes to “migrainology” (yes, I just made that word up . . . but what the heck, I live in America!), a migraine is not just a bad headache. It’s a neurological disease – changes your brain, the way it works and everything; one of the top 10 disabling diseases and can lead to stroke and coma.

Now that is tough sh*t right there! I won’t even want to think of dealing with that, yet millions deal with it daily.

I guess what I am saying is that other people’s challenges often seem much more arduous than your own but the thing is, it’s all relative. There’s no comparison. Don’t think for one minute that because I have AIH and you just have a URI, you have no right to be heard.

The ABC’s of Medical Conditions

So, whether it is PMS or CFS, EDS or HIV, SAD or TTH (ABC, XYZ or any of the myriad combinations of letters), if it significantly affects your quality of life; if it sometimes drives you to the brink of insanity/despair – it’s tough stuff. How do you cope?

Here are 5 strategies that have been working for me.

Continue reading “Coping with the Tough Stuff Too”

A Healing Touch

When God touches your life, it lets you touch the life of others.

Ever since Adam was a lad, touch had been used for physical, psychological and spiritual healing.

Wall carvings dating back to 3000 BC, show the ancient Egyptians using healing massages.

The power of ‘the royal touch’ was believed to be evidence of God’s high esteem.

Medieval kings and queens of Europe were supposedly able to ‘heal’ their subjects by simply applying ‘The Royal Touch’.

Me – the silent skeptic, never thought much of ‘the laying on of hands’. Ignorance? Lackadaisicalness?(Yes it’s a valid word. I checked). I prefer naiveté – that doesn’t sound quite so callous.

Healing people just by touching them? Pshaw! As far as I was concerned, that claim fell out of the same superstitious bag as Ouija boards, palm reading, and horoscopes.

But had I been more attentive, more open-minded . . .

Jesus, the greatest healer of all times never, ever carried a medicine bag. Yet he healed and continues to heal thousands.

Moved with compassion, Jesus touched their eyes and immediately they regained their sight and followed him. Matthew 20:34.

And how do you know when God has touched your life? The real question should be, how do you not know when God has touched your life?

Let me tell you about one of the times when God literally touched me. And when it happened I didn’t even recognize it for what it truly was.

Feel like hearing a story? Doesn’t matter, I’ll tell it anyway!

Here’s my story: Continue reading “A Healing Touch”

Live the Life you Love

Get started on realizing your bucket list and making memorable life-stories. 12 prompts to motivate you.

Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.

Pope Paul VI

So you say you’ve never had a bucket list? You sure? Think back to when you were a child and fill in the blank:

“When I grow up, I want to _____.”

There was the first item on you bucket list. Have you followed through on it yet?

If not, what are you waiting for?

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A Garden of Hope and Healing

A collection of quotes to embrace and inspire.

Life is a tough deal. You don’t get a rehearsal and there’re no do-overs; there’s no personalized instructional manual, you get only one chance and you never know when the game is going to end.

That is why we have to take what we have ‘here and now’, and make it count for everything, whatever the situation. Hope is the key.

“Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear the hardship of today.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh.

“Once you choose hope, anything is possible.” ~ Christopher Reeves.

And that means healing is always possible. Sometimes you just need to tweak your perspective – change your glasses.

“Healing doesn’t mean that the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.” ~ unknown.

And yes, healing takes courage, but “we all have courage, even when we have to dig a little to find it.” ~ Tori Amos.

So when the going gets tough, remember “you were given this life because you’re strong enough to live it.” ~ unknown.

So have HOPE.

“Hold On, Pain Ends.”

“Have Only Positive Expectations.”

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